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30 Somethings

Yesterday our son, Cameron celebrated his 30th birthday (which is actually Wednesday, but since that is a work day I guess he figured that he needed a few more hours to celebrate other than just after work). Cameron was 9 years old when Randy and I married but he was so easy to love that I felt like he was one of mine from almost the beginning. His wife, Mandy is pg with their first child, due on Randy’s birthday, July 2nd, but after yesterday it is hard to believe that she will actually wait until July 2ne to give birth. This 8 month pg girl planned an all day celebration for Cameron which ended last night at their home with a back yard barbeque for 20 of their closest friends. And us. The old geezers. We were the only ones that was over the age of 30 and well, we are way past the age of 30.I felt so old, I almost made Randy go to CVS to buy us a package of Depends.  As we drove away at the late hour of 8 p.m., headed home to dive into our jammies, we recapped the days events. We had met at a restaurant around noon to begin the celebration and once again, being the only ones over 30 we were allowed to listen in to how they felt a birthday celebration should be held. I wish I had recorded the conversation. These poor kids, barely past college, think that the years are all about them. Most of them are just married or engaged and don’t realize that this might be  the last year that they will actually be allowed a party until their little ones, are given away in marriage.  Just when you think that maybe after raising your children for 18 years life can be about you again, life and celebrations become about grandkids. Randy proceeded to tell Daddy Cameron to enjoy turning 30 and to make the most of it because the next year, their money will all go to giving “Princess Payton” her 1st grand birthday celebration and all he will be doing is cleaning up the cake from the floor that Princess will be throwing, trying to capture the once in a lifetime event on video and taking out the dirty diaper pail. Cameron laughed. Poor guy, he just doesn’t realize that his life, as he has known it, is over.

When we gathered at their house last night with their friends we noticed several things. The guys that didn’t have babies yet were sitting outside with a celebratory cigar and holding a beer. The ones who were already “dads” were inside, squatting beside their little darlings, cutting up the hot dogs on animal shaped paper plates trying to get the little ones to hurry and finish so they could join their friends outside. As soon as the little ones discovered the “doggie door” which led to the back yard, the dads spent the entire evening getting the kids unstuck from the doggie door, which the “undads” just looked on and laughed and gave thanks that they were still allowed to sit and “party down”. Well, we were informed that in the past these sweet couples who bonded while in college would party until the wee hours of the morning. This party ended at 8 After all, most of them had to take the kids home to put then to bed, which made us look pretty good. We weren’t the only ones that needed to leave early. As we stood around last evening it gave us reflection of years gone by. Years when we were the ones going from newlyweds to parents and thinking that we had the whole world ahead of us. Did we feel old last night? A little, as we would listen to stories of childbirth and problems with day care and schedules and being tired all the time we listened to the moms talk about things their little darlings would never do, well, I just smiled. Bless their hearts, can’t wait to hear some of their stories a few years down the road.  But it also made us grateful that we are blessed with some incredible kids. That in spite of our mistakes, failures and not so perfect decisions, God has given us adult children that we enjoy being with as not only family but as friends. Also on the ride home we talked about some of the dreams that we had for our kids and realized that they are now the ones who will be going down that path of wonder and acquiring dreams for their kids. It is great to watch them begin to realize that life is full of promise, full of hope and that in each season of this life, we create memories, not only for ourselves, but for those who are now watching this new generation grow into the dreams that we had for them.

It makes us happy to see that our children have learned that life is to be celebrated, whenever given the chance…take it! All the celebrations make the best memories. So when Randy and I really are in Depends and too old to actually attend celebrations, we will have the best of memories. Thank you Cameron and Mandy for including us.

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Woad (oops, Road, sorry, Ive been around grandkids to long) Wisdom

Our friends back in California sent us home with this blessing last week, “we are so glad you are going home before we all sound like Paula Deen”. Seems that our friends there pick up the southern words of ya’ll and all ya’ll quickly. Stopping back by Phoenix to break up our trip, (who am I kidding, we stopped to see the grandkids)I found myself leaving Arizona sounding like I was 4 yrs old again. Randy looked at me kind of funny when I ask him if he wanted me to pack some “sammies” (sandwiches) for the woad. The first 100 miles driving out of Phoenix I was humming “hot dog, hot dog, hot diggity dog” from Mickey’s Club House. Of course, Randy picked up a few of the grandkid habits also. He wanted to know how old is too old to run around the house in underwear, but I assured him he pasted that age many moons ago. 

We did gather quite a bit of wisdom on this trip. Here is some that you might want to print up to take along on your next adventure around the states.. We traveled another 3600 miles in the last 25 days so we feel that we are almost “travel experts” after having now put about 9000 miles on the car since February. Of course you don’t have to take our advice, but if you don’t you might just be very “sowwie”.

1. Do not spill M&M’s in your car. They might not melt in your hand, but trust me on this, they do melt in the car.

2. Do NOT, I repeat, Do NOT, eat spicy green chiles while on the road, the trip home will take double the normal driving time.

3. Use your grandkids as needed,. I had a chocolate craving while on the road so into Wallyworld we went. When the cashier was checking us out, she stared at me as if to think, “lady, your shorts are already to tight, I don’t think this is really what you should be buying.” To take the focus off me I causally mentioned that we were on our way to see our grandkids, she smiled and said, “of course you don’t want to show up there without candy, do you?” I didn’t have the heart to tell her that that candy, plus another stop for candy would never make it to Phoenix. It wasn’t my fault that she thought the candy was for the precious little darlings.

4. Be sure to pack the next larger size of clothes that you have in your closet. We learned that eating fast food 3 times a day, plus all the snackies that we brought along, does tend to put a few ounces on our well  tuned bodies…

5. When staying with our kids/grandkids, you need to remember that the television will never be tuned to anything but cartoons so have your favorite TV shows recorded at home. You will NEVER have the opportunity to watch them until you return.

6. Eat at all the restaurants that you have been dying to try while driving. Once you get to the grandkids house, you will need to buy TUMS to help digest McDonalds or Taco Bell that completes their daily diet plan..

7. Increase your data plan on your smart phone before leaving. The little sweet darlings only love us for our phones and thus, every game app has now replaced all my exercise and health food recipes app.

8. Take lots of plastic zip lock bags. Because several tubes of cosmetics “blew” driving from 6000 ft down to 1000, we had such fun cleaning up shampoo out of everything in the bag.

9. Be sure you have lots of Kleenix on hand as you walk out the door to head home. No matter the different life style that you have to adjust, it is just never easy to leave grandkids, twust me on this. Maybe singing a little song will help, “hot dog, hot dog, hot diggity dog.”

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DEA Closes In On Retirement Couple

Moving does present it’s problems. When we moved from Dallas to California, we had to deal with neighbors who felt that Hoarders had invaded the neighborhood. Each Saturday, while living in Pasadena, I made Randy take down something to throw away, even if it was just a big bag of waded up newspaper inside. After all, I was determined to prove to any neighbor looking out their window that we really weren’t hoarders. We just had a lot of treasures and furniture that we couldn’t leave behind in Texas. Now, moving back to Texas where the rooms and closets are bigger than they were in California, we have room, once again for all the things that our kids will one day walk through the  house with a giant garbage bag and with one final sweep, discard anything that didn’t come from Ikea. But, we are determined to make the little darlings work for any inheritance they might receive, so sweep away they will be doing.

Randy and I are still trying to get used to him being retired. We are adjusting quite well, we think, but some days finds it’s struggles and   challenges.

This morning, as I had begun to tell you about started out pretty normal. We were discussing what we would do today over hot tea and coffee. When I told Randy that it was my turn to take the shower first, he said go right ahead, he would make himself breakfast. Wow, that is awesome, I get to shower first (that means that he has to be the one to use the squeegee to clean all the glass walls. (Personally, if I ever marry again, that will be written in the marriage vows that “HE” will always be he the one to  clean the shower walls) But back to the story. I go upstairs to take a shower while he makes breakfast. I am standing in the shower ,when I hear the smoke alarm go off. I give it a couple of minutes, thinking that surely he remembers that since moving into this house, we have set it off 5 other times. Each time it goes off, you have to open the overhead garage door, allowing air to blow in and then open the other back door to allow the heat to escape. But after about 2-3 minutes, it is still going off so I put a towel around me and come downstairs, dripping wet, to see what the problem is. There he stands at the stove, still frying his egg and fixing toast. Freezing, I open the garage door and the other back door so the smoke alarm will stop. In the “nicest” voice I could muster, I asked him why he didn’t open the doors so it would go off. His reply was, “well I didn’t want my egg to burn so I was waiting until I took up my egg”. I am so thankful that the rolling pin was put away.  Because we have had lots of friends and family over in the week we have been here and have set off the smoke alarm so often,the neighbors probably think we are running a meth lab. One of these days, we will probably will be visited by the DEA. I will be ready for them. I’ll just let Randy cook them a fried egg.

 

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Cravings &Cookies

Yesterday as we were beginning our day, I began to wonder why my jeans were shrinking. Had it been all the Southern Comfort food that we had been eating since we crossed over into the “low country”? I was still taking the medicine that the California nutritionist had given me to control cravings. When I had told he Dr that I could not take diet pills, he assured me that this was not a diet pill and that it had been given for years to smokers to help control their craving for nicotine and it was good for controlling cravings for food. Instantly I began to loose weight and was so proud that the old me that would grab at anything sweet for a snack, was now shopping for fruit and yogurt.My “new me” quickly scanned the shelves for healthy snacks instead of the usual cupcake that had somehow found it’s way into my hand. As we drove out of the grand state of California, images of the food that we had missed so much, while living in California began to overcome me. We were headed to New Mexico where we feasted on Mexican food for 3 days…but I was faithful to continue my “diet” pill. So far so good. As we sunk deeper and deeper into Paula Deen country, that resolve to just indulge every few days or so was disappearing. We were giving in to the temptation to exit when we would see signs that read, “exit 117 for the best fried pies” or exit 242 for the “greatest peanut brittle”. Yesterday while getting ready to go out exploring Charlestown, I sunk to an all time low. We tried to eat a little healthy. Randy had gone downstairs to bring back a cup of coffee and hot tea for me. He even brought back a couple bananas, but when we peeled them, they…well, let’s just say that they weren’t in their prime of life. So not wanting to take my “no craving” pill on an empty stomach, I reached for our snack bag. When we got in the car to leave, Randy looked over at me and noticed that I had a bag of cookies in my lap. Defensefully, I quickly reminded him that I was not suppose to take the medicine on an empty stomach. I was also trying to get rid of a few small leftovers so we could clean out our car. In my quest to clean and cautious, I had devoured 6 cookies. I reminded him of the reasons. When I heard myself say the reasons out loud, they didn’t make as much sense as they did when I was trying to justify my actions in my mind.
I told him that he needed to get me out of the deep south as quickly as possible; so we are doing just that. As soon as we go to one more place that has been on my bucket list, Edgar’s Bakery in Birmingham, Al. I will start taking my “no craving” pill once again with carrot sticks instead of cupcakes or cookies.
Viva Paula Deen & the South, where you can find the best food in the good ole USA

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Touring on Retirement Budget

Another place that we cannot return…Savannah. Because we are on what Randy calls a “retirement budget” we are looking for ways to cut back where we can. He has told me to make a little game of it so I won’t feel like we are having to give up wonderful things like, eating or manicures/pedicures, salons, you know, the necessities of life. Today took the cake. We were in our hotel looking at the different tours to take which would allow us to see the historical places around Savannah. He told me that first he would kind of like to drive around the downtown area just to acquaint himself with possible restaurants so we could decide which tour sounded fun. I agreed. That was where I made my first mistake. As we were driving around taking in the small streets and different gardens, we got stuck behind one of the Tour Trolley’s and because the street was so narrow, we couldn’t go around. As we were sitting there waiting for the tour guides spill on the history of the building that was right in front of us, Randy quickly looked at me and said, “instead of paying all that money to ride the tour trolley, lets just follow it with our windows down so we can hear what the guide is saying”. I couldn’t believe my ears. In the first place, it was 43 degrees with the wind blowing and now we were getting dirty looks from the folks riding in the back of the trolley. They knew exactly what we were doing. It was so embarrassing. I pretended that I needed for Randy to pull over for me to take a picture of an empty warehouse so at least the Trolley would be able to make a run for it. As we were pulled over for me to take a picture, we heard tourist say, “there is that blue Texas Mercedes” that is too cheap to buy a tour ticket”. I told Randy to get us out of there and let’s go on to Charleston. It was time for me to have a little chat with Mr. Randy. I told him that maybe we should find other ways to cut back, other than the free tours, as I would hate for us to be ask to leave a town.

We are now in Charlestown and thank the Lord, we don’t have time to do any tours. He is now on the computer seeing if he can find any waterfront seafood restaurants which honor AARP or have any coupons that we can use. I think its time to head back to Dallas. Hopefully by the time we get to come back, Savannah will have forgot us or we will have a different car so they won’t recognize us.

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Princess Elsa VS Spiderman

We have arrived in the land of Princesses and pink & purple surroundings. It is a blessing that we had a neutral resting few days in Texas since leaving “grandson territory” and arriving in “princess territory”. What a difference a few days make. It wasn’t that many days ago that we were surrounded by balls of every shape and color, dinosaur  and SpongeBob or Spiderman stuffed toys Where the plates on the table were pictures of Batman, Robin or Incredible Hulk. Stepping on Kung Fu Warriors figurines were common. Having to pretend we were hiding from  Capt Hook was the only way we could come out of our room. We barely escaped the pretend volcano erupting before loading up the 3 grandsons in the car only to need to move a Scoobie Do lunch box before we could climb into the minivan. Ah…how precious.

Now arriving in Princess territory is a whole new experience. Pink, pink, pink….everywhere. We loaded pink plastic plates this morning with pancakes because “we were eating with Princess Elsa and everyone has to eat on princess plates”. The movie Sophia that also stars Elsa and Ariel is mow playing while I am sitting beside a “real little princess, dressed in all pink, writing this. We were blessed at breakfast to be eating with a princess that wouldn’t eat until her tierra was placed on her head and her milk was poured into her pink star cup. We have gone from being entertained by 3 boys tumbling on the floor, yelling at each other that “it’s my turn to jump on dad” to a sweet princess just wanting us to watch her cook on her make believe stove for all the dolls, which are, of course, dressed in pink.

Randy is now thanking me, which I knew he would, for making him learn “Where is Thumbkin” so he is able to sing along with Princess Elsa. I told him he could thank me by letting us stop at the Outlet Mall when we leave Orlando.
After this pink week, we feel we are ready to welcome our new granddaughter who will arrive in July. Next segment of our travel Randy agreed to learn Little Bunny Foo Foo. We’ve got this grandparenting down pat!

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Duck Dynasty Comes Alive

We are traveling to Florida to see our daughter, Christi, Tim and Kenley. When Randy and I looked at the map, we noticed that the road would take us right by Monroe, Lousiana, home of Duck Dynasty. Immediately, I got excited. To think that we might actually see Ms. Kay or Willie just made me happy, happy, happy. Randy was game. As we neared Monroe, several happenings while driving down the road, let us know that we were getting close.  Randy told me to hurry and get off the phone and take a take a picture of the jeep quickly coming alongside us. I got the camera ready and here it came. All you could see was a pair of naked feet sticking out the window. Click. We go about 5 miles down the road, still trying to forget the feet sticking out the window when we look up and see a baby seat roped to the top of a minivan. The wind and rain was tearing at the baby seat and it looked like it was about to fly off the top of their car. The ropes holding it were being stretched to the breaking point. Click. Hopefully the couple remembered to take the baby out before strapping it to the top. But then, if it was hooked to the top of the van, what was the baby sitting in?  Not wanting to look like a tourist, we had purchased a Willie bobble head, back in Monroe, which we now proudly displayed on the dash of our car. We felt like this might help us fit in as we continued to drive deeper and deeper into the south of our great USA. As we crossed over the Mississippi border, we stopped at a Micky D’s for a rest stop and get drinks. Randy ordered his coffee without incident and I ordered an iced tea. I love the south, home of the best iced tea in the world; I always order half sweet & half unsweet. The young man behind the counter ask me if I wanted creamer and sugar with my tea. I looked at him and thought maybe he misunderstood me. I once again repeated my order, “a glass of iced tea with extra ice, please”. He once again ask me if I wanted cream and sugar. Maybe he didn’t understand that I had said, “iced”, so I repeated it again. He then informed me that he knew my order and that some “folks” drank cream and sugar in their iced tea. It was then that I remembered where we were. As we crossed over into Dixie Land, we discovered that we needed gas. We find a station. Randy gets out of the car to fill “er” up. After about 1 minute, he quickly gets back in the car and tells me to hurry and drive away. The car that had pulled in had windows missing but had a Rebel flag that had been stapled over them. That same car was blowing out so much smoke and exhaust that Randy couldn’t breathe. The fumes filled our car so badly that we had to drive for 15 minutes with the windows down, when someone pulled up beside us to let us know that in Randy’s haste, he had jumped back in the car without replacing the gas cap. We have quickly learned that life really is lived much slower in the south. As we continued to drive down the highway, we saw houses that were on huge lots, but for some reason, the family car had chosen to park right outside the front door. We wondered why, with all he land that surrounded their home, would they need to park right in front of the front door on the lawn. That question will haunt us for weeks. At breakfast at the hotel, we walked in a little cocky. We felt good about ourselves. We had even taken time to iron our suitcase wrinkled clothes before coming down. Everyone there was wearing sweats (that didn’t match) or wife beater shirts. We quickly began talking very loudly about our bobble head so we wouldn’t appear to be outsiders. We got our toast and sat down to eat. I told Randy that the people apparently weren’t use to seeing folks dressed like we were (of course I wore my pearl earrings to spiffy up my new “Si is my role model” T-shirt) because they certainly gave us the one over as we came into the room. We finished our breakfast and checked out. It was at this point that Randy discovered that his pants were not zipped up. We knew why we had been looked at and I guess we fit in with the “southern” folks a little more than we thought. We are now in Florida and am hurrying off to the store. We forgot our Ben Gay to rub on so we fit in with all the retirees. It’s going to take a lot more that our bobble head to fit in down here. Just in case you are wanting to partake of some great southern iced tea I thought I would post one:

3 large tea bags
6 cups water
2 cups sugar
Bring water to a boil. Remove from heat and add the tea bags. Cover and allow to steep for about 30 minutes. Add sugar and stir until dissolved. Pour over glasses of ice.

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Veggie Lasagna

Last night was great. After a whole month of not cooking, I took over my sister-in-laws kitchen. Since Janece has gone pretty much vegetarian, with exception to salmon, I tried to think of something I could cook that would meet her likes, but still fill up two 60 something yr old hubbies who think that a side of buffalo is required at each meal. This dish came to mind because it is so easy and quick and goes great with fresh green beans, salad and since we are back in Sister Schubert country, hot rolls baked with melted garlic butter. Even our buffalo hungry men devoured this lasagna.

Just make your favorite lasagna sauce. While it is cooking, sauté
the following in about 1 table olive oil:
Sliced mushrooms
White onion
Fresh spinach
Yellow squash
Zucchini
Thinly sliced carrots
Bell pepper
Add to the veggies a dash of garlic powder and fresh oregano, salt and pepper.
Cheese mixture:
2 cups small curd cottage cheese
1 1/2 cup shredded mozzarella
1/2 cup Parmesan cheese
1 egg
1 table dried parsley
Mix cheeses with egg and parsley. Set aside.

When veggies are tender, layer your “no boil” lasagna noodles over a layer of sauce (about a cup) which you have covered the bottom of a greased 9×13 baking dish.

Place a layer of veggies and cheese mixture and sauce, repeating layers. Remember that the noodles will swell when baking. Finish with a top layer of cheese. Bake, covered In preheated 375 oven for 45 min. Remove foil and allow cheese to lightly brown. Remove from oven and let sit for about 10 min before cutting to serve.

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Safety Deposit Box Dreams

We are in Corpus Christi, TX visiting my mom and enjoying the different restaurants that I frequented until moving to Dallas back in 1995. One of those amazing places that I hit within 24 hours of arriving is Kiko’s Mexican food. They have truly the best enchiladas in the world and the best fried mushrooms with chile con queso EVER. We just left Kiko’s where mother enjoyed a plate of deep fried faitas. Seriously, if you are even in Corpus, you must go.
While there, I glanced over to a table that was facing us and saw a friend of mine that I had not seen in 20 years. It was so nice to see her and found out that she follows chocolatecastles. Trish, it was great to see you. This morning Randy and I went to close up mother’s safety deposit box at the bank. After hearing this week about a man winning 10 mil from a scratch off lotto ticket and another family finding gold coins buried in their back year, worth now, millions, I got excited thinking, “what if there are insurance policies or precious coins in the box worth millions?” On the way to the bank, I began to mentally plan the beautiful house where Randy and I would spend half of the year in Italy, while returning to New York City, where we would spend the other half of the year, looking out over Central Park. Oh, the possibilities of our future were just running rampant through my head, the baby blue Bently convertible that would be parked in front of our 5th Ave apartment, which would take me to my all day spa appointment. We arrive at the bank. My dreams were quickly shattered when upon opening the safety deposit box that my parents have had since 1979. The only items inside were a penny, a loose dime and a few papers which included a refund check for 9 cents from Woolworth’s and a little receipt showing that my parents had paid off their house back in 1966 for $3,065. That was it. Oh, a couple of $2 bills. $35.00 a year is what we have been paying to keep that box. But, because we didn’t know where the key was to it, I just couldn’t not pay it in case my parents had some hidden treasure that they were keeping as a surprise for their only child.
Oh how quickly my Italy plans went. We can’t even buy a Starbucks frappachino with the $2 bill, penny and dime.
Think I will go drown my sorry at Snoopy’s with a basket of friend shrimp tonight. Looking out over the water while munching on shrimp will help me forget Italy and the Bently. If not, there is a Baskin Robbins close by.
Surely chocolate peanut butter ice cream will help me get over the disappointment of not finding valuables in that precious little lock box that we have paid….let’s see, 35 years times $35/month equals $1,225 dollars. That would have almost bought one ticket to Italy. Half a dream so close.

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So Many Thoughts, So Little Time

As we are fastly approaching moving day, Wednesday, there are just so many thoughts going through my mind. One thought is, “I DON”T WANT TO GO” and another is “HOW IN THE WORLD DO YOU PACK FOR TWO TO THREE MONTHS WHEN I CAN’T GET TO CLOTHES BECAUSE THEY WILL BE IN STORAGE SOMEPLACE”…where will we go for this new adventure? Will we travel to places which hold special memories or search out new adventures in places that we have always wanted to find..where will we be living around Dallas?… where will we be going to church? Will I be living in a house or a condo? Will we be able to just fall back into the life we left 3 years ago? Will we really spend the time with family that we intend?
Only time will reveal the answers to the questions. We have been up to Big Bear for the weekend with 4 other couples who we have come to love these past 3 years. As we were driving up the mountain, snow began to appear last Friday and it never ceases to amaze me that we can drive 2 hours away and enter a winter wonderland. The purpose of the weekend was to have our traditional Super Bowl party up there with lots of food, card games and of course, the ladies shopping and going to the tea room. Each time we have been there has engrained the fact that we have been so blessed here the past 3 years with friends who have become just so very dear to our hearts. When we are cooking together in the kitchen for the 10 or us, we have learned each others moves and what we do best. Some of us are the ones who do the actual cooking. Some set the table and clean up, while others provide the conversation that makes us all laugh. We have bonded so beautifully with our friends God has given to us here. The friends here have shown us how to love others and truly open your heart to newbies. We never felt like the new kids on the block because of their kindness and hospitality.
Both Randy and I hope that when we return to Dallas, that we will have learned how to reach out to others. We learned so much the past 3 years regarding friendship. Don’t just tell someone to call if they need something, most people will never call. Go ahead and do what you feel is needed. Take a meal by when needed, invite people into your home, regardless of the dust on the table. Reach out to friends by including them in everyday simple activities. When we remember some of the things that people here have included us in, it is usually the simple things that we look back on so fondly. I really truly pray that I continue to “pay it forward” as we head back to Texas and begin this new season of life that is called, “retirement”. We anxiously hope that our lives will spread the joy and encouragement to others that we have received here in California.