Well, if there is anything that you might want to try to test your marriage, we might have found the perfect situation. This will help to see if you have what it takes to know if you meant it when you promised “through sickness or health, till death do us part”. Even large homes seem small when there is so much coughing. And each person looks at the other one with a look of “if u cough one more time I’m going to push you out side and lock the door” look!

Oh there have been several times in these past two weeks, when that was coming sooner than later. For the past two weeks, we have been side by side in the house trying to get to the point of being able to really say, “I love you and would do this all over again” and really mean it. After all, we consider this not bad that in 26 years, this is the first time we have truly had a divorce attorney name and number on a sheet of paper laying out, ready to call. It’s not that we weren’t feeling sorry for the other one, it was just that we both felt so bad that we would glare at each other when one of us needed something, wondering which one of us would be able to actually get up and get it. Then there were the days and nights of one of us being chilled and the other one was burning up! Who got to pick if the fan was on or off and was the temp set at 72 or 78!

We even survived 9 hours in the ER, waiting for a 15 minute antibody infusion that we had been told to “allow about 3 hours”. We had an appointment, getting to the hospital at 9… we got home at 7 p.m. We do so appreciate the medical staff who are so overworked and yet treat each of us like we were their only patient. But… If we weren’t sick when we got to the hospital, we would have been by the time we left. Neither one of us had a clue that there would be so many sick people sitting around us, coughing and sneezing and complaining every time a medical person walked by them. We came away with a new appreciation for every one who works in the medical field.

We drew straws to see which one of us would sleep in the “big boy bed”, which the other one would go sleep in the guest room. We knew if we tried to sleep in the same room, neither would sleep, as the coughing that took place made us sound like we had TB. And, when we needed a drink to stop the coughing at 3 a.m., I’m not going to lie and tell you that I didn’t fake being asleep so that i didn’t have to go get Mr. Hello I’m Ringing the Bell Because I Need A Drink. Then there were the constant texts from friends and family who wanted to know what our oxygen levers were, day and night. Our blood pressure was usually pretty normal until by nighttime we were so stressed by the concern from our kids if our oxygen levels didn’t stay above 95. And I guess I don’t have to tell you that because we are old and one of us has had lots of pregnancies, there are certain things that happen when you cough a lot. So jammies had to be washed quite often. Before you send us hate email, we are, and have been vaccinated since February. But apparently there are many of us, even though we did get the vaccine, we still caught Covid. One of the positive things is that both of us lost weight. I found out that when you can’t taste or smell, it’s no fun to cook or eat. I even lost my desire for chocolate candy. I never do that. It was so sad that because I had so much time on my hands and could have cooked a lot to share, It was not safe to do that as I didn’t want to spread germs to other people.

We are now on the other side and getting better every day. We are so grateful that we were spared the intense symptoms of Covid that so many people have had. Yes, we felt bad and yes, we still have bouts of no energy, but because of being vaccinated, we were spared the horrible health issues that so many have had to deal wth. And we are still married and we still love each other. But, if this had gone on too much longer, well,…. we kept the attorney’s number just in case we get the flu at the same time this Winter.

I usually do not write about issues that cause conflict or issues that might cause people to not like me. I’m one of those who will do or keep quiet about most everything that might hurt peoples feelings. But last night on TV when we watched a nurse break down crying because she was so tired and overworked, it broke my heart. Her words to everyone listening were these: “most of this could have all been avoided had people got vaccinated.
It started me thinking about that. What is happening to our world when we choose to not listen to wise doctors who have tried to tell us that the vaccine works. When I hear people say that they are not getting the vaccine because they won’t let the government tell them what to do; why not? when they are just trying to keep us safe? Years ago, when government told us we had to get vaccinated for polio and small pox to be able to go to school, we did it. I remember watching some friends when I was a little girl who had to live in an iron lung because they contracted polio. My uncle became crippled with polio. But we as kids, stood in lines with our parents to receive the sugar cube with medicine in it to keep us from having polio. Then once again, when the government came in and told us we had to wear seat belts to avoid being thrown through the windshield, we accepted that. Our babies now have to be strapped in car seats. We pay taxes. Is it all of the social media that has stirred up so much discord that we have taken an attitude of; no one is going to tell me what to do!

Last night as we watched that nurse asking people to please reconsider getting the vaccine, all I could think about was why our hearts have changed so much. Why do we just automatically think that just because we are being told to do something that will keep us safe but also others, why would we not want to do that? Have we become such a proud people that we feel that no matter what we are being told, we cannot surrender our trust to people who know what is best for us? Maybe it is time for us to look inside of our hearts to ask ourselves why are we really not getting on board with this very necessary and important vaccination?

In the gospel of Matthew 22 verse 17 the Pharisees were trying to trick Jesus and “now tell us what you think about this: “is it right to pay taxes to the Roman government or not?” But Jesus knew their evil motives. “You hypocrites!” “whom are you trying to fool with your trick questions? Here, show me the Roman coin used for the tax.” When they handed him the coin, he asked, “whose picture and title are stamped on it?” “Caesars” the replied. “well then, give to Caesar what belongs to him. But everything that belongs to God be given to God.” His replay amazed them and they went away.

If you are wondering why I choose this scripture it is because what Jesus is saying is this, we need to honor and respect government. I know what you are thinking. But unless the government tells us to do something that is dishonoring to God or makes us do something that is against His laws or commands, as Christians, we should think about what we are called to do. And sometimes, our wills need to be in line with what is best for us and others, and not just refuse because we feel that we don’t want the government telling us what to do. And of course I do know that some have been told by doctors that because of certain health issues, they are recommending them not getting vaccinated. Totally understandable. And I do respect everyones opinions. This is just mine, so please don’t send me hate mail. It just scares me that we have become a world of so much “to each his own and no one can tell me what to do”.

God has given us wonderful doctors who are wise and who have given us medicines which help keep us safe from so many unknowns. Why do we not trust them, even though if we get sick from the things that the vaccines would have kept us from getting, we accept their medicine to help get us well. This has been an eye opener for me to ask myself some hard questions. Is my heart right in accepting that sometimes, in spite of the fact that the government sometimes makes some really bad decisions, it also makes some very good ones. In this case, they are trying to protect us and our families. We should be so grateful. Yes, we do live in the land of the free. But it is also the home of the brave. And sometimes being brave means we have to step out in faith and do what is best for everyone. And that is to get the vaccine. If this posts changes one person’s mind about being vaccinated, all glory goes to God. He put this on my heart to write last night.

Well,I know the title is long but this dish sounded so good to me that I know I will be making it for the holidays. It is so exciting to know that in exactly 19 days, I can begin to get my fall decor out, put up the Fall Trees and start thinking about all the dishes that will grace the table for the following 4 months. If you are like I am, even if the temperatures don’t feel like Fall, September just sounds like it should begin all the holiday festivities. Even yesterday I sat down to look through some old Taste of Home, Paula Deen and Southern Living magazines for some new ideas. One idea I have to share with you is this:

When having people over for an Italian themed dinner, use large colorful cans (that you have washed) of tomatoes or tomato sauce, to hold bread sticks or fresh basil to put in the middle of the table, or use them to put your napkins which are folded up with forks, knives and spoons if serving buffet style. I loved that idea. Very practical and so cute. So back to the mentioned recipe. Have finally learned to like blue cheese so this caught my eye and can’t wait to make them.

1/4 cup avocado oil

3 cups halved Brussels Sprouts

1/2 cup sliced red onions

1/2 cup sliced sweet red pepper

2 cups fresh or frozen cranberries

2 tables balsamic vinegar

1 garlic clove, minced

1/2 cup crumbled blue cheese

1/2 cup crumbled cooked bacon

3/4 teas salt, 1/2 teas pepper

1/2 cup chopped cashews or pecans

In a skillet, heat oil over medium heat. Add Brussel sprouts, onions and red pepper; cook and stir until crisp-tender, 8-10 minutes.Add cranberries, vinegar and garlic. Cook just until berries are tender, 8-10 minutes. Remove from heat. Stir in cheese, bacon, salt, pepper and sprinkle with nuts of your choice.

6 servings

Taken from Taste of Home Nov 2018