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Slow Cooker Mississippi Chicken

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Yesterday was a great day. In spite of all the craziness and fear around, some friends and I opted to meet in Peggy’s house for lunch and to play cards….what a wonderful afternoon. Cindy, one of the friends who joined us was caring for her 8 month old granddaughter and brought her along. We all took turns holding the baby while eating and playing cards. Brought back so many memories of doing that every day. Was such a sweet time together. Peggy, who is a wonderful cook and is always serves such great food passed us all a copy of this recipe. Because this is such a wearisome time, I thought it was the perfect day to share this as it is taken from the Wearychef. Peggy told us that it is such a great recipe and when I sent to some of our kids, Christi responded that this was already one of their favorite recipes and makes me quite often. So, if you are like me and had not heard of it…here it is.

Serves 8

3 lbs boneless chicken breasts (or thighs)

1 packet of au jus gravy mix

1 packet ranch dressing mix

1 stick (8 tables) butter

6-8 peperoncini peppers

Add chicken breasts (or thighs) to the bottom of the slow cooker. Sprinkle both packets of the seasonings on top of the chicken. Top with the stick of butter and the peppers.

Cover and cook on low for 6-8 hours or high for 4 hours.When it’s ready, take a couple of forks and shred the chicken.

Serve over rice, noodles or potatoes. For a low carb meal, serve over riced cauliflower.

 

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Cowboys, Pearls and Jerky

A repost from 2013 in case you need to read something other than about the “C” word today! Hope it brings a smile to your heart!

It is good to be home. Good to be able to have big hair, sunshine, no wind or humidity and not a Tex-Mex restaurant to be found, to tempt me every day and gain back every pound I had lost to go to Texas. It was good to come home before I had to buy a second seat just to fly home. From the time I landed in Texas, it was rainy and windy so my hair was flat and straight the entire time. Didn’t take an umbrella so my clothes were wet and wrinkled. If you are like me, you are always hoping that you will look good for the people you don’t get to see but a couple of times a year, so I was so excited about having lost a few pounds before getting there only to be disappointed that no one was noticing the weight I had lost, all they saw was that my hair looked, “just awful”…really, awful….so much so, that I only went to stores and restaurants that I knew I wouldn’t run into anyone I might know. It was embarrassing and I didn’t want them to think, “poor thing, she moved away to California and look what she has become, a left over hippie with straight flat hair and wrinkled clothes” After a week of having the worst hair, I bought a hair clip to pull it back, only to have it make my face look like I had gained about 30 pounds. Needless to say, I couldn’t wait to come home and have fluffy hair that was still a little fluffier than my rear end and I didn’t have to wear a sign that said, “I don’t always look like this” around my neck. The sign got wet from the rain, and the word “don’t” disappeared. The sign now read, “I always look like this”. Coming home couldn’t get here fast enough.

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Before coming back, I flew to Houston and stayed a couple of days with friends, Cathy and Cindy, (twin sisters, who I have known for 33 years) which treated me to some of the best food around Texas. We had Tex-Mex 3 times and seafood from Monument Inn. Isn’t it wonderful how you can see friends who you haven’t seen in a couple of years and the friendship just picks right up just like you had been together every week. Friendships that make you forget about flat, wet hair are the friendships that we treasure our entire lives.

Since it was Rodeo days in Texas, while I was driving from Houston to Corpus, I passed the group of cowboys in covered wagons pulled by horses. This is the annual Trail Ride that happens every year and ends up at the Rodeo. I had lived in Texas for 60 years and had never happened upon this sight. It was exciting to be driving down the highway and look over and see this huge group of people riding along on wagons or horses. It was really such a treat to be able to say I had seen them; had read the write up and saw pictures in Southern Living Magazine, but never in person. Made me want to pull into the next truck stop for smoked beef jerky and chew on that, driving down the highway: so that’s what I did….I just hope none of the old Northwood Women’s Club members were driving down that same highway. I can only imagine what they would have thought seeing me chewing on beef jerky,  waving and yelling “ye haw” out my window to the cowboys in their covered wagons, with flat, straight hair. My only saving grace was that hopefully, they would have seen that no matter the hair, the yelling and the beef jerky, I still had on  my earrings and pearls. To Texas Women’s groups, you can get away with a lot as long as you are wearing pearls and earrings, matching pearls and earrings, that is.

Tomorrow, will resume the chocolate recipes till the end of the month. Share a recipe and a smile….Trudy

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Friends & Funerals

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You must be thinking by the title of this post that it will be a downer to read, but that is not my intention! Today sitting and honoring a dear lady that I truly did not know well but wanted to honor her life!

As I sat there and listened to the minister that did know her well, a sadness crept over me! Yes I realize that is normal for being at a funeral, but this was different. It was a sadness that made me want to change my outlook and my everyday living of how I see people! As we sat there and heard stories of Carols life and the person she truly was, why did I not know all this? The answer to that questions is truly very simple! I never took the time or trouble to find out! As it brought so many memories about my dad and how I never gave him a real chance to be involved in my life, it all came back that I have lived so many years with always just being drawn to folks that I felt were just like me. Loud, impulsive, excited about every adventure that comes, sometimes (and this is hard to admit) “surfacy”, always ready for fun and games, wanting to be involved in everything around! And those are my good qualities! Don’t think you are ready to hear about my bad ones! But looking back because Carol seemed quiet to me when I saw her at church, I figured that she would not enjoy a person like myself, because she appeared more serious that I am! Had I got to know her, I would have found that she was truly a lady who lived and loved adventure! She ran marathons, loved the beach, loved to travel and did so quite often! She was a nurse and loved children and worked in the children’s dept at church for years! She went up in a hot air balloon! But most of all, she was a sweet servant to her precious family and loved the Lord! kIn fact, it was her kindness and faithfulness that won her husband to the Lord, just by watching how she lived. Why is it that because others may seem different than us, we tend to think that we don’t need to take the time to really know them! We are content with passing by with a simple hi and how are you and always  gather to the friends who we have already connected! Maybe the quiet one in the corner is content to not have to be the center of attention, but is still quite entertaining, if given the opportunity.

This was our  morning devotion this morning and seems so reverent to what I am trying to say.

*taken from The Passion Code by O.S. Hawkins

“Only “one of them returned” Luke 17:15 in thanksgiving. This leper, like the others, had a family to get back to, a business to tend to, but something was more pressing. We are not told his name. He belongs to that vast throng who live their beautiful lives and preform their selfess deeds in often anonymous ways. We may not know his name, but he is shouting to us today. “get back to Jesus. Be grateful. Give thanks for all He has done for you.”

This scripture and devotion portrays the life that Carol lived. She lived in purpose. To serve, give thanks for God’s goodness and by her actions and life, shouted to so many lives, “get back to Jesus. Be grateful and give thanks for all He has done for you.”

Carol, It is my regret that I did not get to know you better. But will one day walk the streets of gold with you and will then thank you for living for Your King and Savior. I bet you have already heard Him tell you, “well done, good and faithful servant.”  

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Blueberry-Banana Creme Pie

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Why I don’t make this more often, I cannot tell you…wait a minute, yes I can. IF I made it very often, I would weight 50 lbs more than I do now. This is one of Randy’s favorite desserts. So because he has requested something different than cookies I have  been making all week, I decided to surprise him this evening with this. It is really simple to make and is such a crowd pleaser. If you like blueberries and bananas, you are going to love this.

1 package Pepperidge Farm Chessman cookies

2 medium banans

1 can of blueberry pie filling

1 recipe of vanilla pudding (I make mine, but if you are in a hurry and don’t want to make your own, buy the small size of french vanilla instant pudding and make it according to the directions.

1/2 pint of whipping cream or Cool Whip (if you have followed my blog for any length of time, you will know that Cool Whip is WAY down on my list of toppings, but for calories sake or ease, I know that lots of folks use it. And when my dr tells me to either quit using real whipped cream and butter, or have heart surgery, I guess I will start using Cool Whip also)

Instructions

If you make your own pudding, do it first and set it aside while preparing the other steps.

This is recipe I use for the pudding

2 cups whole milk

1/4 cup plus 1 table flour

1/2 cup plus1 tables sugar

2 egg yolks

tiny pinch of salt

1 teas vanilla

1 tables butter

Combine all ingredients except vanilla and butter. Using a whisk, whisk the ingredients all together in a medium saucepan until all lumps are gone over medium heat. Continue using the whisk as you cook the pudding until pudding is thick. When it is thick, remove from the heat and add the vanilla and butter and stir until butter is melted. Set aside and let cool for about 30 minutes.

Line a dish with about 12 of the chessman cookies.  Pour the cooled pudding mix over them. Set this in the fridge for about 30 minutes. Remove from fridge and slice two banana over the pudding mix. Spoon the blueberry pie filling over the top of the bananas. Set in fridge for about an hour to finish cooling. Add the whipped cream that you have whipped with sugar or the Cool Whip Sprinkle about 4 or 5 of the Chessman cookies which you have crushed with a rollin pin in a bag over the top of the cream.

Set in the refrigerator until ready to serve. Cover leftovers or if you aren’t planning to serve it now, keep covered in the fridge until serving time.  Snack on the remaining Chessman cookies while you make dinner or keep for another day when you don’t have any of this dessert left and you are wanting a buttery cookie to go with coffee or tea.

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#Blessed

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It has been a few days since I last posted. Life seems to have escalated in activity ever since Randy went back to work.  After admitting to him that I truly did miss our mornings together just sitting and having our coffee (well he has that while I have by Diet Dr Pepper) and just talking about everything under the sun, we decided to try to get up a little earlier to still have that time before he heads off to the jungle out there.

Everytime I begin to whine about having to get up early and make breakfast, pack him a lunch and still have to come up with something for dinner, Randy just looks at me and says two words, “dry cleaners”.  Yes, that’s right, dry cleaners. As many of you know, when people retire, there are just some things that you give up, unless you have won the lotto, or hit it big in the stock market. For us, dry cleaners, was one of those things that we gave up. We could have continued to use them, but after all, we were retired and because he wasn’t going to work, he had no use for starched shirts or suits. So we began buying short sleeved shirts for him to wear around the house. The only thing was, Randy is not a T-shirt kind of guy. In 25 years, I have never seen him in a t-shirt with any type of saying or logo. Casual to him is wearing penny loafers without the penny in them.  So for him to be home, he still wore polo style shirts or little Hawaiian shirts that had button down collars. So guess who bought an ironing board and iron 5 yrs ago? That’s right…little miss “I hate to Iron”. But he kept telling me these past few years, “you don’t really want to waste money on dry cleaners when you can use that money to buy a hot fudge sundae at BR, do you? Or my favorite, “just think, the money you save doing “our” (out of the 15 shirts I would iron, maybe 2 were mine) own laundry and ironing, you can go to Stein Mart or DSW and buy more shoes. Well, you don’t have to tell me twice. So iron I have been doing for 5 years.  With every shirt I ironed, I would just say to myself, “this one is for the new pair of shoes I want” or “this week, I’ll get a 3 scoop hot fudge sundae”.

In February when Randy went to work, I have to admit, I whined and complained about getting up early. I fussed when it was now up to me to carry up the groceries up to the second floor  all by myself. I cringed when it dawned on me that I now had to pack a lunch EVERY DAY….but after a week of him listening to me, as soon as I would open my mouth to grip, he just looked at me and says, “dry cleaners”. Plus, we are a two car family again. #Blessed

Last week, I drove my own personal little new car, thank you very much, to church where I sat with about 100 other women  listening to our sweet Women’s minister talk to the young moms (no, I don’t consider myself a young mom, just because I still carry my baby weight around, they actually allow me to be a mentor mom, which truly is a little scary if you think about that for a minute) about how everyone always post #blessed, under pictures of families smiling and boarding beautiful boats, or skiing down a snow laden slope in Vail, or holding a new born baby, Yes, we all do want a blessed life. And when our lives are going through seasons when they aren’t #blessed, we have a hard time admitting to others that we are going through difficult circumstances. As I sat there and thought about that, it dawned on me that she was right. We all want everyone to think we are doing just fine, while holding our pinkies out holding our cup of tea. But many are truly struggling with sickness, loss of jobs, loss of spouse or a medical diagnosis that we certainly didn’t want to hear. This week, we are hearing so many reports about the corona virus that is stirring up panic. Last night Randy and I listened on-line to a preacher talk about the fear that is spreading around the world right now. As we listened to him talk about this fear that is overtaking so many, it reminded me of scriptures that have been given to us in times like these.

2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

Proverbs 3:25-26 “Do not be afraid of sudden terror, Nor of trouble from the wicked when it comes; For the Lord will be your confidence, and will keep your foot from being caught.

Psalm 56:11 “In God I have put my trust; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?

It is so easy to get caught up in the fear that creeps in on us. We sit and listen to report after report and that is exactly what Satan wants us to do…after all, he is a deceiver, the author of lies and confusion.

In those times when you are tempted to allow fear to overwhelm you, remember to give that fear to the Lord and read this Psalm. It will remind you just whose you are and to Whom you belong. after all, to know this, you are truly #blessed.

Psa 91:4-7
“He shall cover you with His feathers, and under His wings you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler. You shall not be afraid of the terror by night. Nor of the arrow that flies by day, nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. A thousand may fall at your side. And ten thousand at your right hand; But it shall not come near you.

Have just finished putting away groceries and trying to catch my breath from hauling them upstairs. Of course, there was no toilet paper or hand sanitizer at the store, except a couple of single rolls which had been left on the shelf, so if we aren’t quarantined for over 2 days, I think we should be ok. I did, in fact, buy a lot  of Dr Pepper. Might not have toilet paper, but I have 2 months of Dr Pepper on hand #blessed!

If we do get stuck at home for a few days, I will be posting some recipes because I will be cooking ALOT! Can’t watch tv all day and I’m certainly not going to iron!

 

 

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Baked Fried Chicken

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Face Book is such a great way to keep up with memories of what we have done on a specific day for the last few years. It is so great to see memories pop up with pictures of our kids or grandkids and how they looked 2, 5, or even 7 and 8 years ago, if we have taken pictures and posted them. One thing I truly enjoy is the recipes that folks have posted and I shared so I would have them on my page and then would not loose them. This recipe popped up yesterday on my memory page. After going back and reading it, I realized that I never made it but it sounds so good that next week, we will definitely be making it. *sorry I don’t know who to give the credit for this but whoever it was, thank you! It sounds like a winner that will go with a bowl of mashed potatoes and gravy, green beans and hot buttered rolls…….ending with maybe a coconut cream pie loaded with whipped cream. Now, that will be a memory meal!

Place thawed chicken breast tenderloin strips in a bowl of milk. Let soak for 20-30 minutes.

Mix in a Gallon Size Ziplock or Large Bowl:

1/2 teas salt

1 Tables Season All

3/4 teas Pepper

1 cup flour

2 teas paprika

Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Cut 1/2 stick (4 tables) unsalted butter into a few pieces and pace in a 9×13″ baking dis. Melt the butter in the preheated oven.

Spread melted butter around the bottom of the pan. Highly spray the pan, if needed, to make sure that there are no dry spots.

Shake excess milk off of chicken and completely coat each piece with the seasoning mix. You can either shake the chicken in the bag, until coated, or dip each piece in the bowl, until coated.

Place each tenderloin in the melted butter and place in oven. Bake for 20 minutes and then turn chicken and continue cooking for another 10-15 minutes or until chicken is done. ENJOY!

*ok, I can tell you right now, that I will add some garlic powder to the mix and also probably pour a little more butter over the chicken when I turn it before continuing to bake on the other side. After all, can you really have too much butter?

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Chile Rellenos

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Ingredients

  • 6 fresh Anaheim chile peppers
  • 1 (8 ounce) package queso asadero (white Mexican cheese), cut into 3/4-inch thick strips
  • 2 eggs, separated
  • 1teaspoon baking powder
  • 3/4 cup all-purpose flour
  • 1 cup vegetable shortening for frying
  • 1 cup sharpe cheddar cheese

Directions

Taken from Allrecipes

  1. Preheat the oven’s broiler and set the oven rack at about 6 inches from the heat source. Line a baking sheet with aluminum foil. Place peppers onto the prepared baking sheet, and cook under the preheated broiler until the skin of the peppers has blackened and blistered, about 10 minutes. Turn the peppers often to blacken all sides. Place the blackened peppers into a bowl, and tightly seal with plastic wrap. Allow the peppers to steam as they cool, about 15 minutes.
  2. Rinse cooled peppers under cold water to peel off the skins, and cut a slit along the long side of each pepper to remove the seeds and core. Rinse the peppers inside and out, and pat dry with paper towels. Stuff the peppers with strips of the cheese.
  3. Whisk the egg yolks in a bowl with the baking powder. In a second metal bowl, beat the egg whites with an electric mixer until the whites form stiff peaks. Gently fold the beaten egg whites into the yolk mixture. Place flour into a shallow bowl.
  4. Heat the vegetable shortening in a skillet over medium heat. Roll each stuffed pepper in flour, tap off excess flour, and dip the peppers into the egg mixture to coat both sides. Gently lay the coated peppers into the hot shortening. Fry peppers until lightly golden brown and the cheese has melted, about 5 minutes per side.
  5. Spray a 9×13” baking dish with Pam. Pour about 1 cup of the green enchilada sauce in bottom of dish. Place fried green chiles in pan over sauce. Pour about 1 more cup of the sauce over the top of green chiles (dont saturate with sauce. Might not need entire cup over top). Sprinkle the 1 cup of the sharp cheddar cheese over the top and place in preheated 400 degree over for about 8-10 min or until cheese is melted and sauce is bubbling! Serve with pinto beans and salsa with homemade flour and corn Chips!
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Carrot Cake Cupcakes

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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!!!! What a great way to say I Love You by dropping off some wonderful homemade cupcakes to friends or family.

A dear friend had requested either red velvet or carrot cake cupcakes when she found out that I was baking her something. Because I had a whole bag of carrots in the fridge, I thought to myself, “self, should you make a kale-carrot smoothie or carrot cake cupcakes with cream cheese frosting?” and guess what won out?  Because I had not made a homemade carrot cake in a long time, I began to go through some old cookbooks and decided to try this recipe which was in an old cookbook I have had since the 70’s. They were passed down to me by my aunt Gladys. The actual print date of the cookbook is 1961. I (I know you are never suppose to begin a sentence with “I” but because it is Valentines, please be kind to forgive me) have to tell you that besides the recipe that I have made before with a can of crushed pineapple in the carrot cake, this one is the best one I have found. It is super moist and light and the flavor is wonderful. Of course, all the cream cheese frosting certainly didn’t hurt the flavor either. So grab a bag of carrots from the grocery store and get the food processor out. These are just delicious and will be a perfect ending to our night at home tonight. Yes, that’s right, Mr. Cupid and I will be at home tonight. We have a dinner planned of Olive Tapenade, Bruchetta with Garlic Bread, Salami and cheese wraps. We plan to celebrate tomorrow night but because my Valentine is now working, I have the feeling he will be so thankful to stay home tonight and then celebrate tomorrow night. Besides, I have to find out what happens in the next episode of A Place to Call Home …..

Ingredients

1 1/2 cup oil

2 cups sugar

4 eggs, well beaten

1 teas vanilla

2 cups flour

2 teas cinnamon

1 heaping teas pumpkin pie spice

2 teas baking soda

2 teas baking powder

1 cup crushed pecans or walnuts (I didn’t put them in the cake, but sprinkled them over the frosting this time

3 cups grated carrots

 

Directions

Mix oil and sugar; beat well. Add beaten eggs. Sift all dry ingredients 2 -3 times. If you add the nuts to the batter, add them to the flour mixture. Mix dry ingredients with the sugar mixture. Add carrots 1 cup at a time and mix in well after each addition. Either bake as cupcakes or layer cakes or one 9×13″ cake. Bake until cake feels firm to the touch but still looks shiny on top. Cool and Frost with Cream Cheese Frosting*

*Frosting

1 stick unsalted butter, room temperature

1 8 oz cream cheese, softened

4 cups powdered sugar

1 teas vanilla

Mix all ingredients together until no lumps remain in mixture. I added a little pineapple juice to the frosting and blended it in to give it extra flavor. Sprinkled the crushed pecans over the top.

 

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Zipppity Do Da Pasta Salad

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Since I am in a most supercalifragilistic kind of mood today, I have that old song, “Zippity Do Da” going over and over in my mind today. Just coming home from Phoenix where I went to visit our daughter and family for a few days. Then last night returning home to Randy taking me out for Mexican food, how can I not be in a great mood?

This morning, I was to meet a new friend for coffee at 9. Because it was my first morning back in town, I began to think, “why did I accept this invite, when I wish I had made it for another day and could just stay home and bake.” But after meeting with her, well, all I can say is that I met a kindred spirit and it just made my day. Felt like I could have sat and talked to her for hours. Isn’t it always like that? When we least expect it, God puts someone in our lives that seems like such a gift. Was so thankful I kept the appointment. We began to share some of the things in our lives that have led up this point and it was apparent that we have so much in common. AND…….we both love white bakery cake!

But back to the pasta salad. As I sat there and began to tell her about the blog, I remembered that I had never posted the pasta salad that many have requested the recipe. So here it is….trust me on this one. It is just so simple, yet it is so so different from most pasta salads and everyone who tried it loved it. So get those salad forks ready and get ready to put this recipe on your “favorite recipe lists for bridal luncheons, Mother’s Day luncheons, and any Spring or Summer day you want something wonderful to eat besides chicken salad.”

Ingredients

1 bag or box of bow tie pasta

1/2 purple onion finely diced

one small jar of chopped pimentos, drained

1 cup finely grated parmesan or mozzarella cheese, (or a combo of both which is what I did)

1 8 or 12 oz jar of olive tapenade. (One jar I bought was 8 oz and another was 12 oz, but because I was making salad for 25, I used 3 jars and 3 boxes of pasta)

1 bottle of Kraft Roasted Red Pepper dressing

*opt if you want to add some cut up pepperoni or dry salami, it goes well with this recipe also, just add the amount you desire to the pasta once you have added rest of ingredients.

Directions

Cook pasta according to directions on box. Drain and cool.

Add all ingredients except the dressing and stir. Add salt and pepper to your liking.

Depending on what brand of olive tapenade you use, will depend on how much of the dressing you will need. If the brand you use has quite a bit of the olive oil in it, you might want to drain some of the olive oil off so that you would need more of the roasted bell pepper dressing.

After you have added the ingredients you want in the pasta, add enough of the dressing to make it moist.  Keep covered in fridge. Right before serving, you might want to add a little more dressing if it has soaked in too much into the pasta. Sprinkle some extra grated cheese on top and serve.

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First Day of School All Over Again

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It has happened, Randy has gone back to work. Today was his first day and it was very hard to see him walk away from the car.  I felt like I was 30 again, dropping off my first baby at school.  Yes, I cried. After all, we have been together pretty much 24/7 for 5 years now and it was like, “oh my goodness” who will I talk to? Who will run to the store for me when I am cooking and realize that I’m out of sugar? Who will help me carry up groceries to our home? Who will vacuum? Who will sit on rainy cold days and watch A Place to Call Home with me?

As you can tell, it is still all about me. When he received the letter on Thursday that he was to come to work today, we had tears of joy and just stared at it. What? Is this really happening? Will people think that I nagged him so much that he just couldn’t take it anymore?  Will he be so tired at night that he won’t want to talk to me?  As I sit and write this, I realized that it really is all about me. Let me start with some thoughts about him, so I won’t completely sound spoiled rotten.

First of all, he was excited as a monkey finding a bowl of bananas.  He kept telling me, “you are going to miss me tomorrow”, which I would reply, “oh goodness no, I’m free now to go to lunch with friends and shop and go get my nails done.” All the things that I would feel guilty for doing when he was at home. He has never ever complained about anything I wanted to go do or anytime I was gone, it was just my silly guilty feelings of knowing that he was at home while I was out having lunch or spending money.

Young folks think that is silly Im sure, but we were just raised in a different generation that we didn’t live such separate lives from our spouses as many do today.  When we were first married, I remember telling Randy that I would just never think of spending more than $50 without telling him first. He did the same of me. We didn’t think anything about it. We didn’t have girls nights out or go on vacation with friends. Times were different.

But today, as I was loading the dishwasher and folding clothes and cooking, it was kinda nice to have my kitchen back to myself…..WHAT AM I SAYING?????? IT WAS GREAT, DOUBLE GREAT , TRIPLE GREAT ,TO HAVE MY KITCHEN BACK TO MYSELF!!!!!!!!!!! I actually removed the yellow tape from down the middle of the kitchen that he knew not to cross when I was baking. Today I didn’t have to “redo” stacking the dishes in the dishwasher. With him not here to sit and talk to, I have done 3 loads of laundry, already made a huge dent in dinner prep and dusted. Talked on phone and changed the sheets on both beds.  Why is that? Why do we get more done when the hubbies are not here? I don’t have the answer. If you do, please write and tell me.

Our conversation over the last few days has been about  how it took us 2 years for both of us to accept his retirement. Then the 3rd year, we threw away the divorce attorneys number that we had been keeping beside the phone.  We began to speak to each other again, well other than, “GET OUT OF MY KITCHEN and GO FIND SOMETHING TO DO and “no, I don’t want to go to Home Depot with you”. We  kinda got in the groove of a new routine of him being home and both of us moving and settling in  Arizona. After that 4th year, we both knew that we wanted to settle back in Texas and we had a common goal…….selling our house there and traveling for 6 months before settling down back in Dallas. When you travel, it is so easy to be together  all day, every day, so we really got in the hang of him being home and “helping” me around the house. We have been back in Dallas now since July and Randy has been asking the Lord to give him more of a purpose, other than finding the best deal on vacuum cleaner bags. Thanks to Randy’s brother mentioning Randy’s name to the company he works for, Randy received a phone call last week offering him this job. So we have been out trying to find another car for him to drive to work since we have been a one car couple for these last 5 years.  Because, as Mr. Retirement had pointed out, “why do we need two cars when we will be doing EVERYTHING together?” Our search began last week with Randy telling me that he just wanted a car to drive back and forth to work in. So we had a budget we were going to stick to. After 2 or 3 days and looking at some of the cars that he had found, we (well, me) started to think that maybe if we bought a little cuter car than what he was looking at, wouldn’t it be fun for me to have this little cute car to run around town in while our old car could sit in the parking lot at his work. After all, why should he have the new cute car just sitting there in a parking lot, when I could look so spiffy running around meeting friends for lunch in the new car that I have already named (even though we haven’t bought one yet) .

We did find a car that both of us like. Hopefully by the time Mr. Goes To the Market 3 Times Before He Decides Which Loaf Of Bread To Buy, the car we like will still be there. For two days I have been pointing out the positives of why we should get this particular car. For one thing, it is so cute. Secondly, we can both get in and out of it without the need or a fork lift. Thirdly, it is white so it would go with my hair, no matter if I have it colored blonde or red AND it goes beautifully with his silver hair…wait….after thinking about it, he would look much better driving our old red car as silver goes so much better with red than white………so because I’m such a giving person, I will LET him drive the old red car to work and I’ll drive the white car. Because that’s what loving wives do…we give and give and give…..just like I’m going to let him take me out Friday night to celebrate his first week of work.  Doesn’t it make you wonder why he wanted to work and be gone all day away from such a loving wife that makes our marriage all about him? Maybe this week, he will find out just how blessed he is to have such a loving wife when he opens up the Visa bill the end of Feb to see that I missed him so much I had to go shopping and  have lunches with friends so I wouldn’t miss him so much….bless his heart…!!!!!